Comments on: Materialistic, stupid, lazy, selfish wife! What to do?

By: Eben Pagan Guru MAsterclass

Eben Pagan Guru MAsterclass — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 19:47:47 +0000

Eben Pagan Guru MAsterclass…

Materialistic, stupid, lazy, selfish wife! What to do?…

By: loves.2smile

loves.2smile — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 04:07:59 +0000

wow, she sure likes to spend! i agree moneys great, but with me, i dont spend if i dont have to, my kids are happy the way i have brought them up. Id rather be out of debt, or in just a lil debt ( small home loan, car) and be happy, than go out and spend thousands, worrying and being unhappy. She needs help hun!
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By: blueeyeddancinggirl

blueeyeddancinggirl — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 03:21:59 +0000

I work in the field of mental health with a couple degrees in that area. While not everything you said makes sense, i.e. married 10 yrs, two daughters over 13?, and you gave the name of the bank after basically accusing your wife of embezzlement…there was something you said that caught my attention…"she hasn’t always been this way". Any history of mental illness in her family? Bipolar Disorder is one to look at. One of the characteristics being that people are grandiose and take excessive risks such as spending too much and thinking illogically…There doesn’t sound to be a lot of love left since you call her stupid, lazy, and selfish, but out of respect and decency, perhaps you should look at getting her a mental health intervention. Easiest way…tell her you want a divorce, she threatens suicide, you call police or mental health officer through sheriff dept and they evaluate what info you provide (include erratic spending habits) and she provides. If judge thinks she’s a danger to self or others they’ll do a 72 hr hold and meanwhile you will close all bank accounts, credit cards, and get a REALLY GOOD LAWYER. You are going to be paying for this for a long time but if she is sick, hopefully your kids will forgive you in time. Bipolar disorder is often triggered in 30s and can be triggered by hormone and stress changes. Check out internet resources on the disorder if what I’ve said comes anywhere close to home. Also you may wanna spend less time on the internet and more time getting a second job (deposit that money in a separate or trust account for your kids).
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By: pictureshygirl

pictureshygirl — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 03:11:59 +0000

Better hurry up quick and get advice from a divorce attorney, even if you file for legal separation to protect yourself from further debt. If you do nothing and allow her to continue her spending then you are enabling her to do so. After doing this take serious action to sell the home, cars and pay off the debts. Stop being a pushover or your wife will sooner or later drive you to bankruptcy. If she crys, let her cry, she needs to stop behaving like an irrisponsible child and more like a mature adult. She is also not showing the teenage girls a good example. Now she hooked you in further by getting pregnant and if you do not think it was intentionally you are wrong. Stand firm and take control of the situation the way a real man should. Good luck to you!
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By: Twilight

Twilight — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 02:35:59 +0000

Pretty cool story but it has a few holes in it. You met her in college? Have only been married 10 years but have two children over 13 years of age? Your wife is a financial manager for bank yet she does not understand finances? And most importantly you have a degree and still OPENLY accuse her of embezzling on an open website? I think you are joking around on the net to get reactions. Plus you state that she said you will make the money back and you don't deny that. Right or wrong?
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By: Shelby A

Shelby A — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 02:03:59 +0000

OK, in my opinion, once you think of your wife as ". . .stupid, lazy, selfish" I’d pretty much say the rest is irrelevant. I really don’t think there is any love left flowing either way in your marriage from the way it sounds. I think so many people are actually torturing themselves by staying married when they obviously should NOT be together anymore. Your wife can’t respect you or your feelings now and you don’t love and respect her either or you wouldn’t be calling the women you were supposed to honor and cherish horrible, degrading names on the Internet! (even if she might deserve it?!) People need to realize that marriage is meant for people that are IN LOVE! It’s not meant to make people hate each other! Life is short~should we spend it in misery?
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By: ♥CALi GiRL♥

♥CALi GiRL♥ — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 01:54:59 +0000

She is R I D I C U L O U S! Please talk to her before you two end up divorced or in serious serious debt where you can't get out, you dont want that. She is a financial manager and she doesnt understand this. I guess you are right, she has a mental illness. Get her some help and tell your daughters directly, NO MORE SPENDING good luck i feel bad for you
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By: Vistai P

Vistai P — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 01:30:59 +0000

chill out she makes alot of money let her do what she wants. let her cruise in her bentley and live in her big house. shesh its her money too. if u dont like it than divorce her and trust me she will move on to someone who isnt so uptight. she works hard if she has the cash for abentley let her live
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By: alison l

alison l — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 01:05:59 +0000

Honestly…i’d try the counseling thing…if she agrees…try..if not…u also have to think of urself and ur childrens future..she is being a really bad role model…if she wont change…what can you do except walk away? She definately sounds like she is going through a mid life crisis and or serious depression…spending, body alterations etc…i really wish you the best and hope it works itself out….good luck
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By: Zaferus

Zaferus — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 00:51:59 +0000

How can a Financial Manager not understand how to budget money? I work for an FI (financial institution) and the FM’s we have are the one’s who are all busy planning for their golden retirements and never spend money on anything!!!

She’s going to spend you both into bankruptcy, and with a depressed economy you’re both going to be screwed. You need to figure out when it’s high time to jump ship brother.
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